Love once = Love forever

Person, Panther, Porcupine (Photo credit: Nikki Pugh)

So think of a world where you only fall in love once. And that person is your soul mate and love for the rest of your entire life. There are many species out there that do pick their mate for life. Swans are a very good example.

They mate for life, and stay with them forever.  Researchers have shown that people that have been married for 20 years can have the same lasting and true love after 20 years. That they had when they first fell in love.  With the divorce rate being as high as it is (Currently over 50%) why don’t people wait for that real and true love? What would happen if people only fell in love once and never truly again?

Can you imagine, only ever kissing one person, being intensely in love with only that person, only ever having sex with that one person ever? That’s a lot to ask for many people. Today kids start having sex and a much earlier age than ever before. We now have children having children. But where does it stop? Why not wait till we find that one person that is right for us.

How many of us would stay by the person that we love even though we know they will no longer be with us after a short period of time? Or say that the person you love was killed by a drunk driver. Would you continue to love them for the rest of your life, or would you move on and find a new love? In this case a Swan would continue to live out their remaining days, alone and never love again. As they stay true to the person that they fell in love with.

I believe that many people lose sight that love is not something that we throw around, or even that they really don’t even know what true love really is. See to me true love, is putting their happiness before your own, because if they are happy, you are happy. But now say that person is dying and needs say a heart to continue to survive. How many people that think they are truly in love would give up theirs to save the person that they truly love? I can say yes to that without a moment’s hesitation.

I think that people throw love around way to carelessly and don’t realize that it should be a once in a lifetime thing.  If we would change our views on this. Over time we would see a reduction in teen pregnancies, the age children start having sex would start going up, not down. The divorce rate would also go down. Sadly this has been a growing trend in the wrong direction. Too many people think that a marriage is a throw away after some rough times, if people stuck out through those times and did the hard work that it takes to keep it going, we would have a much lower divorce rate.

Encourage your peers and children to wait for that one and only person that they will fall in love with.  If this would happen, we would make the world a much better place.

Defining Love

English: Romance icon (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This is for those that are in a relationship and think that they are totally in love. My question for you is how do you define your love for the other person? If that person where to only have a few weeks or even days to live, how would you spend that time with them? Would you spend every waking moment with them that you could? Would you make the ultimate comment me to love them for the rest of your life time and marry them even though you know it would only be for a short time and end in heartbreak?

For those that have endured that heartbreak and pain, I commend you with the ultimate respect. To me this is the symbol of love that one could ever make, knowing that there would only be short time together as husband and wife.

How many of us could make that kind of a commitment in those circumstances? I know for myself I certainly could. Honestly I’m not so sure about some other people this is a very delicate issue.

Going back to the original question. How do you define love? While some say that it’s a chemical reaction in the brain that leads us to feel certain emotions and feelings. I think that I is even more basic than that. Some say that it has a lot to do with the reproduction of the human race, which we want to find the person that we think will have the greatest chance of producing children to keep a family line going.  I honestly think that love is an emotion and that can’t always be explained.  I even have trouble answering when asked why I love my significant other.

So back to my original question, and I’m opening this up for a good discussion in the comments. Why do you love your Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Wife, Husband, significant other? I would love to hear from you all!!!

Same Sex Marriage

English: Michael Hendricks (right) and René Leboeuf, photo showing both their faces. Taken at their wedding (the first same-sex marriage in Quebec), 1 April 2004. Photo by Montrealais. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

So I thought that I would write my views on same sex marriage, and how religion and politics have had a large impact on how people view marriage.  Some people view same sex marriage’s as an atrocity as are disgusted by them, while others are vocal of their support. And lastly there are the ones that it does not matter to.

On the side of the people that think same sex marriage is an atrocity. People want to try to keep the traditional marriage alive. So what even is a traditional marriage? Well at one point all marriages were arranged, and had a gain for the males involved. Also marriages were arranged for girls as young as 13, who were then married off to much older guys. Back then the woman was also at one point considered property as well. Women were given a room or even a whole house in some cultures just so that she would have a place to go where her husband could never go into.

So, how has marriage changed over the years? While, firstly before religion was never involved. Then back in the early Christian era the Bishop then decided to make it mandatory for them to get permission of the bishop to marry. However then by the 17^th century the governments at the time started recording marriages, and then started their long time involvement in marriages.

How back to the original beef, why should governments and religion keep out of the business or marriages? While, marriage is defined as the union of one person to another, it has changed dramatically since before recorded time.  We now are in the 21^st century and most places have legalized the union of individuals that are of the same sex.

What I’m trying to say is that the definition of marriage has changed dramatically since it was first recorded.  So who are we to say that, this is not a step in evolution of the union that people share as marriage. Even if that union is of people of the same sex.  I believe that we as people need to evolve and that our views on marriage need to change as well.  Changing our views on marriage will have some very positive effects on the marriage statistics and help to reduce the divorce rate that is staggering.  I’m not sure too many people could say that they will be with the person they are with right now forever.  Back 100 years ago, African American individuals were considered property and dominated into slavery, but as time went on, bigotry became less and less of an issue and slavery was ended. Peoples views on marriage can change, people have shown that we as a society can change and we need to change. There has been shots fired on both sides of this issue, however there seems to be a lot of misunderstanding, and misinformation published.

My view is that if you love someone regardless of their sexual orientation that government or religion should not have the power to say that you cannot marry them in a symbol to their love for each other.  Here are some questions to keep in mind.

If you were to embrace the traditional marriage as it was 100 to 200 years ago, would you be willing as a parent to marry off your children starting as young as 13?

Would you be willing to invoke the death penalty as the penalty for a same sex marriage?

Do you think that government; religion and businesses should have as much influence on marriage as they currently do?